Never in a million years would I think I would ever face Infertility issues. I did everything in order of what society deems acceptable. I finished college, got a job, dated, married my husband and was ready to have children. For many women it does not happen in that order.
Ever since I became transparent about our difficulty expanding our family and our journey from faith to fertility, I have met hundreds of women who are silently suffering and pained at the thought of all it would take to conceive or knowing they may never be able to conceive.
Gospel Recording Artist, Donnie McClurkin, wrote a song entitled, Stand. The lyrics simply say:
What do you do when you've done all you can
And it seems like it's never enough?
And what do you say
When your friends turn away
And you all alone, alone?
Tell me, what do you give when you've given your all
And it seems like you can't make it through?
Well, you just stand when there's nothing left to do
You just stand, watch the Lord see you through
Yes, after you've done all you can,
You just stand
For many women facing infertility issues Standing is one of the most difficult things to do. Standing when Doctors give you 5% or less chances of ever conceiving a child. Standing when you have had failed fertility treatments and you are still asked "What are you waiting on?" Standing when your health insurance plans do not cover treatments nor meds is not an easy feat.
So I decided that when God blessed my womb to bear a child I would take a STAND for the many women who are silently struggling. I never knew that starting this blog would impact the lives of so many women. I'm blessed to be a vessel that God chose for this time. This weekend I had the opportunity to sit in a room filled with women who shared in blessing my future daughter with love and wisdom. One of her "aunties" hugged me and said, "Thank you for your story and thank you on behalf of someone who didn't get to complete the full journey to motherhood." Today I am honored that I have a voice for the "eternal aunties" who love like moms, nurturing their village with love, support and wisdom.
For many years I was on a "STOPASKING" campaign so that people would stop asking women hard questions as it relates to fertility. You know "What are you waiting for to have children?" "Something must be wrong, have you tried meds?" However after going through three rounds of failed fertility treatments and finally conceiving naturally, I am now on a campaign to STAND for others and #STARTASKING.
- Employers for insurance coverage.
- My lawmakers and legislators to support issues important to the infertility community.
- My Friends and family to support you.
- The media to cover infertility and the real challenges we all face.
- My network to make a donation to the cause.
- My partner to get involved.
- Those who have resolved their infertility to stay involved.
- OB/GYN or healthcare provider to talk about MY reproductive health.
- For affordable care for treatment of a disease. (PCOS, endometriosis, Ovarian Failure, etc)
- Legal access to all family building options nationwide.
- About men’s reproductive health
As we acknowledge National Infertility Awareness Week, I encourage you to ask the right questions and become more sensitive to the needs of those who may have difficulty expanding their families.
National Infertility Awareness Week: http://www.resolve.org/national-infertility-awareness-week/home-page.html
25 Things To (And Not to) Say to Someone living with Infertility: http://www.resolve.org/national-infertility-awareness-week/25-things-to-say-and-not-to-say.html